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PARENTING Interviewing Mama After struggling with the ups and downs of motherhood, Sophie Young launched Interviewing Mama - a podcast where she interviews a different mother each week and discusses their experiences. Sophie shares her story It’s a funny thing motherhood. Sometimes you feel like you’re absolutely nailing it - like you’re a step ahead. The laundry basket is empty, you’re zooming off to playdates and classes, you’re on time for everything – you’re even wearing matching underwear and buying organic avocados. You are totally handling it, and life is wonderful. But then you hit a bump in the road, and you’re suddenly left wondering again just how you ever thought you could do this. Life starts moving too quick, the broken sleep starts catching up with you, and Jesus - where did this kid’s attitude come from? The nights just got longer, and the mother load a whole lot heavier. But the thing about mothers? They will still get up and show up every single day - no matter what. And although the mum guilt eats us alive every time we sit on our phone when we could be playing, or when we spend an extra minute in the bathroom just to bloody breathe - it is okay. It is okay to sometimes just be an ‘okay’ mum. It is okay to feel overwhelmed and to look forward to bedtime. it is okay to not love every single part about motherhood because you are absolutely and immensely in love with every single inch of your child’s entire being. In all the chaos and doubt that motherhood brings, you walk around each day with a piece of your heart existing outside of your chest. That is a pretty big deal. Becoming a mum, I struggled with the rollercoaster. I wanted to be the perfect mum. The mum that had clean hair and drank green juice at 7am, who attended all the playgroups and who definitely never swore in front of her child. Well, that went to shit. I couldn’t understand how everyone else seemed to find this mothering thing so easy ALL of the time - until I realised, I was looking in the wrong places. I was setting myself unrealistic expectations by following the wrong kind of people on social media. It became important to me to surround myself with the mother kind who share the real stresses and struggles of motherhood, and to be a voice that did the same. *DISCLAIMER - we are allowed to moan when things are hard, and it means we are authentic and doesn’t mean we don’t love our children - ok?? After turning my Instagram into an almost ‘honest parenting blog’, and connecting with other amazing honest motherhood bloggers I realised just how powerful sharing the ups and downs could be for other mums who felt alone in their struggles. And so - Interviewing Mama was born! Interviewing Mama I started my live Instagram show and podcast in February, where I interview a different inspirational mother each week on their real and raw motherhood experiences. The highs, the lows and breaking the taboo of mums discussing their struggles. Episode 1 brought an interview with Hannah (@hannahlouisevans) on which we spoke about her weaning journey and new baby recipe e-book (Moons Meals), and her challenges facing first time motherhood without her mother. Episode 2 was with Jess (@jessicahayes), we spoke about breastfeeding, relationships and the navigating of motherhood under the pressures of a large audience. On Episode 3 I interviewed Tiffany (@tiffanyhughes) about being a young solo mama and her highs and lows of first-time motherhood. Episode 4 was with Carly (@thefitmummytotheo) who is a personal trainer, and pre / post-natal fitness advisor with an e-book on Diastasis Recti (www.thefitmummy.co.uk). We spoke all about honest parenting blogging, and her traumatic birth experience. Episode 5 was a very personal one, I interviewed my mum on her motherhood journey and the struggles she has faced and overcame, and what it was like becoming a nana. • Interviewing Mama is streamed live on Sophie’s Instagram @sophiejaneyoung on Sunday’s at 3pm. You can also catch up on Apple podcasts. 50