MamaMagic Milestones Winter 2014 | Page 32

BA BY “The brain is without a doubt our most fascinating organ. Parents, educators and society as a whole have tremendous power to shape the wrinkly universe* inside each child’s head, and, with it, the kind of person he or she will turn out to be.“ – Lise Eliot1 *The “wrinkly universe” refers to the child’s creased brain. What can sabotage the journey? Faster is not necessarily better • When baby is constantly on mom’s body or cooped up in a stroller or wrapped up like an Egyptian mummy, it prevents the freedom of movement that he needs to develop the brain wiring required to reach each milestone. According to Graham Codrington the average baby has a potential life expectancy of around 130 years. If that is true, why on earth would we encourage a baby to rush through his milestones if he is going to read and write for more or less 124 years? What is the big hurry? When a baby is born premature, the best place for him is skin on skin on mom’s body and sometimes wrapped up like a mummy, but a full-term baby needs the opportunity and freedom to move and discover his body and what it can do. • Illness, as well as poor feeding and sleeping patterns, can sap the little one’s energy. With low levels of energy movement becomes too much of an effort and baby tends to be “floppy”. Floppy limbs are hard to move resulting in even less movement, thus less wiring and less muscle tone development, which will delay reaching a milestone. • Contraptions like supporting chairs, walking rings or jumping apparatus hold baby in a position that his body is not ready for, potentially resulting in a skipped milestone which means less complete brain wiring. Research has shown that many emotional and learning problems later on in life are due to skipped milestones in infancy. • A messed up sequence means messed up wiring because each milestone uses the previous milestone’s wiring, which it adds on to, to build an amazingly complex network of nerve connections. Poor nutrition means the fatty acids that are found in breast milk, and later in fish and some vegetable oils, are absent. The brain wiring needs these omega fatty acids to insulate and protect the nerve wiring. Messages travel at high speed when wiring is insulated, but travel very slowly in unprotected wiring that is the result of delayed milestones. The faster a baby reaches each milestone, the weaker the wiring. When pressure is high, later on in school, the wiring collapses and can be seen in the child’s behaviour and ability or inability to learn. Faster is not necessarily better. The purpose of each of the physical baby milestones is to wire a specific part of the brain. Moms and dads do not have to worry that they don’t know how to trigger a new growth spurt in preparation for the next milestone. Nature takes care of that by prompting baby to move in a certain way and to repeat that same series of movements thousands of times to strengthen brain wiring. What is even more amazing, is that this prompting follows the same sequence in every baby: • • • • • • • • • • suckling neck control rolling over pushing up sitting unaided and without support grasping at will crawling all over pulling up cruising around furniture walking A walking baby has graduated from infancy and is now officially a toddler. Please resist putting pressure on baby to perform, rather allow him to dive deep into each milestone to get as much pleasure out of each experience as possible. We owe it to our children to help them grow the best brains possible. “A milestone shows that a part of the brain has just been wired and is ready to be used”