Write your positive character traits and
what you’re good at. For example, you
may be good with people or children. It
could be that your analytical skills are off
the charts. Maybe you are super creative
or are an A-1 project manager. Include
positive things that your colleagues,
friends and family have told you about
yourself. Writing down your positive
attributes will help you see that you have
a lot that is of good and value.
Check
Your
Dialogue
Internal
As you take a realistic look at yourself,
assess your internal dialogue – the
things you think. Is your thinking largely
negative or positive? Are your negative
thoughts realistic? When our confidence
is low, our thinking is usually negative
and limiting. Deal with false negative
beliefs by writing down directly opposing
statements and speaking them aloud to
yourself once or twice a day and whenever
you find yourself falling back into negative
thinking until they come true.
kind to yourself.
Surround Yourself
Positive People
With
What company do you keep? If your usual
crowd is negative, critical, unmotivated
and complaining, this will drain you and
hold you back. You may have been around
them so long that their perspective seems
right and true, but you must let them go.
Instead find people with a different reality;
people who are positive, high energy and
motivated, confidently working towards
their goals.
Be naturally and authentically positive. Be
a good listener and contribute positively to
people’s lives. Relationship-building takes
time, but trust the process. It is better to
be alone and positive than miserable, in
toxic relationships.
Speak Up
Actively participate in meetings, speaking
at least once in very meeting, sharing
ideas, rather than staying silent and
having others share the same things you
were thinking of. Also become assertive
and speak in a normal voice, without fear.
This will take practice, but you will find
that people will listen to you and you
will gain acceptance as a result. A major
confidence booster is developing public
speaking skills. This often starts off as
stressful and difficult, but improves with
regular practice.
For instance if you are painfully shy, avoid
people and seem to attract toxic friends,
you could write and tell yourself , “I am
warm, friendly and social and have an
amazing, supportive circle of friends”. It
may feel awkward and untrue at first, but
you will find that with time it becomes
reality. We become what we speak to
ourselves - life and death is indeed in the
power of the tongue.
Notice also what you say to yourself when
you make mistakes or when things go
wrong. People with low confidence tend
to blame and berate themselves, beating
themselves and reinforcing their negative
view of themselves. Confident people on
the other hand see themselves as separate
from what happened. Mistakes and
failures don’t define them, but rather are
stepping stones on the life and success
journey, with rich lessons to keep in mind
for the future.
Heal From Painful Memories
Painful memories of past hurts and
broken relationships influence our view
of ourselves and others. If you are unable
to process the hurt, pain and move on,
seeing a good counselor can help you
come to terms with what happened and
build a fresh, positive view of yourself.
This may include forgiving yourself and
learning to accept the past, while being
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