MADE TO LEAD the new skills you ’ ve obtained . Giving your resume a makeover helps you realize how far you ’ ve come in your career .
15 . Putting yourself last . Say it with me now : self care . Gone are the days of putting everyone first and leaving yourself with nothing . Take some time in the day to do something simple for you .
16 . Unmet expectations . These only lead to further disappointment and resentment . Forgive and expect people to not be perfect , including yourself .
17 . Hang ups about dating yourself . If you don ’ t know how to treat yourself with love and respect , how can anyone else ? Treat yourself how you deserve to be treated and don ’ t think about what anyone else is doing . Love yourself and your own company .
18 . One food item you know if not good for you . Got an undeniable sweet tooth or late night craving habit ? Do what you gotta do to kick at least one of those bad foods to the curb .
19 . Small thinking . Small thinking leads to small actions that get small results . Dream bigger and do the work to meet the goals you have faith for .
20 . Negative self-talk . Don ’ t contribute to the self sabotage anymore . Find out what ’ s causing the negative self-talk ( fear , rejection , doubt ) and combat it with positivity and faith .
21 . One thing that doesn ’ t serve your purpose . Your purpose and your time are valuable . Not every activity or event requires your energy . Apply that time and energy to what serves your purpose in your 30s journey .
22 . The negative things you ’ ve learned about marriage . Whether you ’ re married or desire to be , look into what your source of all things marriage came from . Is there anything that needs to be unlearned ?
23 . Self-entitlement . Our generation gets a bad rep . for this ! At this point in life you should understand that no one really owes you anything . It ’ s good to give from a pure place , not expecting anything in return instead of looking out for your selfish needs .
24 . Self doubt about your personal success . Another person ’ s success does not take away from yours . Define what success means to you and go after it without a doubt .
25 . Outdated grooming habits . As we age our bodies , skin and hair require a little more maintenance and moisture . Add something new to your skincare routine to preserve the sexy .
26 . That inward desire to be loved by everyone . This is the truth you ’ ve probably grew up hearing from wise people in your life . In a time when we crave validation from others , don ’ t let their likes and hearts determine your worth in this world .
27 . Emotional immaturity . We have to leave the childish ways behind us . After 30 you can ’ t just chalk up emotionally immature actions to “ being young ,” your emotions need to be expressed in healthy , mature ways . It ’ s part of Adulting 101 .
28 . Perfectionist ways . Striving for perfection will prevent you from starting new ventures and developing new relationships . No one is perfect ; you owe it to yourself and others to offer a little more grace without compromising your core values .
29 . Neglecting quiet time . Whether you pray or meditate , you need to set time aside away from the noise of everyday to gather yourself , refocus and listen to that still , small voice .
30 . Any lies that you were told about turning 30 . I don ’ t know about you , but this my best decade yet , even if I don ’ t know what ’ s ahead ! Get in tune with what you want to see happen in your life and renew your perspective on aging .
FOR MORE INSPIRATION , you don ’ t want to miss the wisdom and practical advice shared in my book Journey to 30 : A Single Woman ’ s Guide to Living Unapologetically . This guide features 10 conversations that I had with women who ’ ve lived to see over 30 and have so much to share from purpose and finances to loving yourself and serving the community . No matter what your new year or new decade brings , enjoy the journey !
TATIANAH GREEN is a multimedia content creator and editor with a passion for writing . In 2012 she launched her first blog BLISSforSingles . com to encourage singles in faith and love and is a contributing writer for several other websites including BlackandMarriedWithKids . com . She is now author of the book Journey to 30 : A Single Woman ’ s Guide to Living Unapologetically Without Deadlines . As she embraces her thirties , Tatianah works , plays and lives unapologetically for Christ in Chicago , Illinois . Connect with her on Twitter and Instagram at @ tfortrendsetta . Find her book at Journeyto30Book . com . made-magazine . com | 7