MADE Magazine Issue 8 - Page 23

MADEFEATURES MADE XXXX in Hollywood, and I’ve had incredible, amazing exposure, that has been (I think) a great way to combine what I believe my foundation of values along with the world experience. if you don’t have faith, someone may believe in you, but if you don’t believe it, then you’re never gonna be able to actualize someone else to believe in you. ‘Cause no matter how much someone believes in me, if I don’t believe in myself, then I’ll never be successful as I could be if I did. I think the hybrid of those things then gives you a lot of the attributes you were just referencing because I don’t think values are nothing unless you can find a practical way to walk out. Every individual has to challenge themselves - that wants to live a value-based life - how do I apply it to the moment and how do I just not let it be ideas that never translate into action. MADE: Speaking on belief and even pursuing aspirations and dreams, specifically for men. What advice can you give men who want to take a risk and pursue their dreams but seek to have a family and live a practical lifestyle? DF: You know, what’s practical? Practical is relative, and that’s a dangerous aspiration. Because if you’re saying “I’m gonna live a practical life” implied in that is someone else’s definition of practical. Practical is relative. You know, my practical isn’t somebody else’s practical. So, the goal I would encourage any man, is don’t allow your success or your aspirations to be defined by practicality. Entrepreneurship is not practical. It’s not - no you can’t do that. I’m not saying live crazy, but you gotta say, “I have to live relative to what I’m believing for. And I need to align myself with a wife and life that will allow me to do that. And for me, the things that I believe and the foundations of my success and the foundations of my faith - it’s not an intentional thing, it’s just an organic thing. Because I am a faith addict I guess you can say. Every time I don’t wanna believe, I end up believing. I just do. It’s just something I do, everytime I want just to quit it’s like “nope, just believe.” MADE: What inspires you to believe? What motivates you? DF: Because I am addicted to it, because I know it works. And so, you know, that believing in that strongly, and believing in a certain set of principles (and those principles have played themselves out in my success), my goal (and the reason why I do what I do) is to help people and to motivate people to do the same. And that...don’t take shortcuts, and integrity does matter and character is key, and all of these things that have worked for me, I’ve become an ambassador of for other people to believe in. And it’s all in the banner of faith. You gotta believe. You gotta believe. Even if certain people don’t have religious faith. You still gotta have faith, because you have to believe in something if there’s no proof...which is what? You believe that you have the ability to succeed. You believe that your business can make it. That means that you have to have faith. You have to believe it. That’s the thing, And here’s the truth. When you have a family, kids are real flexible. As long as you’re in their life, they don’t really care what you do. So if a man is trying to live practically, I would say yes, make sure you are able to provide for your family, but don’t perceive that as “I have to give up my dreams.” And the way that you do that - and this is one of the reasons why I wrote The Wait - is that a lot of times when you’re single (and you’re a man), you have the best opportunity to start setting up what you want. Because the moment that you begin to share your life with somebody, you have to make sure that they see and support the vision that you have. Because if they don’t, you greatly diminish your chance of achieving that dream because you’re choosing to a live life with somebody who not only doesn’t see you the way you see yourself. Also if they don’t see where you’re going, usually they can’t help you get there. 23