M3 Today Magazine M3 Today Magazine Spring 2019 | Page 22

CONVERSATIONAL BLIND SPOTS Identifying Your Conversational Blind Spots BY: JUDITH E. GLASER, ORGANIZATIONAL ANTHROPOLOGIST SUCCESSFUL ENTREPRENEURS tend to be great talkers. They have to be. That's because they continually pitch their visions, strategies, products, and services to investors, banks, employees, customers, clients, and partners. Unfortunately, too many entrepreneurs blow critical meetings and discover too late they can't speak to influence and fail to connect. These entrepreneurs have communication blind spots or, more technically speaking, Low Conversational Intelligence (CI). Conversational Intelligence is a rating of the level of trust you create with others and the quality of interaction as measured by social scientists. Someone with high conversational intelligence would activate the prefrontal cortex of an audience member's brain, a section that enables trust and good judgment. A person with low CI, on the other hand, engages the lower cortex, where fear and distrust reside. Boosts in CI often correlate directly with business turnarounds and a high CI is often a high predictor of success. Breakdowns happen when people talk past each other, not to each other. Once entrepreneurs become aware of their conversational blind spots, they can boost their C-IQ. Recent discoveries in how the brain operates pinpoint that people can learn to identify what is going wrong in conversations and how to "flip the switch" in their brains and others' brains to get communications back on a productive neural path. Here are three common blind spots and how to prevent them. 22