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mojatu.com | Nottingham connected What’s Love Got to Do with It? Renowned Author tells us how to Improve Black Male/Female Relationships! Renowned UK based author, Ifayomi Grant, has published his seventh book, ‘What’s Love Got to Do with It – Seven Steps to Solving the Crisis in Black Male/Female Relationships’. This book takes on a topic which has been the subject of intense debate, handwringing and angst and brings forward a powerful analysis, coupled with insightful, practical suggestions and solutions to assist Black couples and those seeking relationships. Ifayomi said “I have touched on Black relationships in previous book and have run courses on the subject. Given the negativity we hear about Black relationships I thought it was time to pull together my research, observations and personal experience of marriage to produce a book that would cut through the fog of misunderstanding and confusion and provide practical advice and solutions for Black men and women”. The book includes, but moves well beyond the typical narrow focus on personal psychology in relationships and looks at the social, cultural, political and economic context, identifying eight critical factors that have negatively impacted upon Black relationships in the West since the 1950s. As usual the author pulls no punches, laying out the corrosive effects of racism on all aspects of Black life including the economic disablement of Black men and the relentless media attack on the Black self-image. One of the key messages in this book is the need for Black people to move beyond the he said she said gender blame game. A highlight of the book is ‘Sonia’s story’, a brutally honest account of one Black woman’s relationship history. Her reflections are sad, shocking, poignant, insightful and at times funny. She recalls “I had been celibate for 9 years. Taken beyond its usual sexual inference - I was also socially and emotionally unavailable - not even for dating as to me, a “date” meant “more” might be a possibility. And for the kind of men I was meeting, “more” was most definitely not on offer...” Ifayomi notes “The problems in Black male/ female relationships reflect the changing social and economic landscape, which is shaped by the dominant white society. One has to take into account the difficulty of trying to create and maintain healthy relationships in the context of living under oppression, even if most Black people seem reluctant to deal with this unpleasant reality. My book lays it all out on the table and provides the reader with a thorough understanding of this wider context, before giving them the tools to make better choices in selecting a mate and then finding productive ways to tackle problems that inevitably crop up in a long-term relationship.” For further details contact: Ifayomi Grant | ifayomi@uwclub. net | Tel: 0770 3004813 . The book can be purchased at www. houseofknowledge.org.uk and is available in Kindle and other digital platforms shortly. For all your Commercial & Daily Office Cleaning liable e R & l a n io s • Profes Priced ly e iv it t e p m • Co ental D in t s li ia c • Spe eries g r u S P G & 7 Lindfield Close, Nottingham, NG8 6HP Tel/Fax: 01159750963 Mob: 07898786349 E: [email protected] W: www.mojatu.com/pandccleaningservices 12