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What’s Love Got to Do with It?
Renowned Author tells us how to Improve Black Male/Female Relationships!
Renowned UK based author, Ifayomi Grant,
has published his seventh book, ‘What’s Love
Got to Do with It – Seven Steps to Solving
the Crisis in Black Male/Female Relationships’.
This book takes on a topic which has been the
subject of intense debate, handwringing and
angst and brings forward a powerful analysis,
coupled with insightful, practical suggestions
and solutions to assist Black couples and those
seeking relationships.
Ifayomi said “I have touched on Black
relationships in previous book and have run
courses on the subject. Given the negativity
we hear about Black relationships I thought
it was time to pull together my research,
observations and personal experience of
marriage to produce a book that would cut through the fog of
misunderstanding and confusion and provide practical advice
and solutions for Black men and women”.
The book includes, but moves well beyond the typical narrow
focus on personal psychology in relationships and looks at
the social, cultural, political and economic context, identifying
eight critical factors that have negatively impacted upon Black
relationships in the West since the 1950s. As usual the author
pulls no punches, laying out the corrosive effects of racism on all
aspects of Black life including the economic disablement of Black
men and the relentless media attack on the Black self-image. One
of the key messages in this book is the need for Black people to
move beyond the he said she said gender blame game.
A highlight of the book is ‘Sonia’s story’, a
brutally honest account of one Black woman’s
relationship history. Her reflections are sad,
shocking, poignant, insightful and at times
funny. She recalls “I had been celibate for 9
years. Taken beyond its usual sexual inference -
I was also socially and emotionally unavailable
- not even for dating as to me, a “date” meant
“more” might be a possibility. And for the
kind of men I was meeting, “more” was most
definitely not on offer...”
Ifayomi notes “The problems in Black male/
female relationships reflect the changing
social and economic landscape, which is
shaped by the dominant white society. One
has to take into account the difficulty of trying
to create and maintain healthy relationships in the context
of living under oppression, even if most Black people seem
reluctant to deal with this unpleasant reality. My book lays it
all out on the table and provides the reader with a thorough
understanding of this wider context, before giving them the
tools to make better choices in selecting a mate and then
finding productive ways to tackle problems that inevitably
crop up in a long-term relationship.”
For further details contact: Ifayomi Grant | ifayomi@uwclub.
net | Tel: 0770 3004813 . The book can be purchased at www.
houseofknowledge.org.uk and is available in Kindle and other
digital platforms shortly.
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