ASK
Lady A
I never really got into online dating, but a friend finally
convinced me to use tinder after my last breakup... just to
meet people and get a feel for dating again. I met a guy
on there. He was cute kinda funny but after a couple times
meeting up I just wasn’t feeling him. About a month later I
met a guy at a party and we instantly clicked. We have been
dating for almost a month now, but I just found out that he
is line brothers with the guy from Tinder!! He wants me to
be his date to another line brother’s wedding and the guy
from Tinder will be there, what should I do? – Scared to
be Candid
Dear Scared to be Candid,
My first thing to you my
dear is never feel ashamed
or scared to tell your truth. I
would simply explain just as
you have addressed it to me in
this question. Regardless how
deep it got between you and
the other dude I would tell the
guy you are dating the truth
and nothing less. If he really
likes you and understands that
this was before his time, then
you should be okay. Deciding
on the closeness of him and
his line brother is not for you
to determine. Your job is to
simply be the girl he is dating.
Telling him the truth about
his line brother will speak
volumes in the end. If he gone
leave you girl let him leave you
for telling the truth and not
holding secrets or telling a lie.
You have a chance to narrate
the story between you and the
other dude so use that to your
advantage.
I don’t know what to do I just found out that I’m pregnant! I
never wanted to have kids and to make matters worse I don’t
know if the father is my boyfriend, this guy I met in the club
and had a one-night stand with. My boyfriend has always
wanted to be a dad and will be over the moon if he finds out
and will want to keep it. I was thinking about just saying
that I’m going out of town for the weekend and having an
abortion. Or should I tell my boyfriend? If I do should I tell
him I cheated? Should I tell the other guy? Help!!! – Might
be Preggers
Dear Might be Preggers,
My question back to you is if you know
you never wanted kids why didn’t you
take precautions to not be in this sit-
uation? SMH!!! Now to get to your
question, you have to be really careful
with this because you have now involved
your boyfriend in your chaotic world of
MESS! If you love him and you respect
him as a person tell him what you did
and address the true reasoning behind it.
If you are unhappy in the relationship,
he needs to know that. As far as telling
the other guy, yes you absolutely tell him
about the situation if you plan on keep-
ing the baby. If you plan to terminate the
pregnancy (which is totally your decision
and your choice with what you do with
your body) you can decide then if it is
necessary to alert him of a situation that
will no longer be. My strong advice to
you would be deal with the reasons of
why you are cheating within self and
then take better care of your body by
using protection and taking birth control
so that this won’t happen again if you
can help it. This may be the time for you
to gain some self-healing and under-
standing of what you want out of life.
If your end goals don’t align with your
boyfriends, then why are you with him?
The time has come for you to STOP be-
ing selfish be a woman and stand in your
truth no matter what the end results are
regarding your situation