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Call it the Goldilocks rule of great sex: When it comes to lubrication, too much or too little can cause your
sack session to flop. But when there’s just the right amount, it boosts below-the-belt sensations. “Lubrication
is your body’s way of telling you that you’re turned on,” says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of
obstetrics and gynecology at Yale University School of Medicine. “You can’t have comfortable or successful
sex without it.”
Every woman lubricates differently—there’s no “normal” amount of wetness—and most women should be
able to tell when they’re good to go. But if you find yourself bone-dry when you’re ready to jump his bones,
don’t worry: Figuring out the reasons and solutions will ensure that you both enjoy a smooth ride.
High and Dry
About a third of young women say they experience vaginal dryness, according to researchers at Indiana
University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion. “I’ve noticed this big trend of younger women who are dry
down there,” says clinical sexologist Patti Britton, Ph.D. Many of her patients rush through foreplay and aren’t
fully aroused before they dive right into the main event. Bad move: Getting busy without enough slippage
can leave you with soreness or possibly a yeast infection. If your bedmate speeds straight to the big bang, ask
him for more teasing. Better yet, playfully institute a “me first” policy, says Britton: “Once your partner gives
you your first orgasm with his hand, mouth, or a toy, you’ll likely have enough lubrication to make round two
more comfortable.”
Factors such as stress, low-estrogen birth-control pills, undiagnosed yeast infections, breastfeeding, and certain meds (antihistamines and antidepressants) can also dry things out. “Think of it this way: Anything that
can give you a dry mouth can give you a dry vagina,” says Minkin.
And if, by contrast, a mere make-out session is enough to open the floodgates (excess wetness isn’t common,
but it can be uncomfortable and annoying, says Minkin), stash a washcloth nearby to wipe up moisture or try
using a non-lubricated latex condom.
Slippery Conditions
“Even if you don’t have a problem self-lubricating, using store-bought
lube can enhance sex,” says Britton. In fact, women who reached for
lube during the deed reported significantly higher levels of satisfaction and pleasure compared with women who didn’t use it, according
to a recent study from Indiana University. The extra slip and slide
made sex more satisfying, says lead researcher Debby Herbenick,
Ph.D. And more comfortable sex tends to be more sizzling sex.
On store shelves, you’ll see lubes made with silicone, water, petroleum, or oil. For most couples, water-based lube is the best bet. It’s
safe for condoms and easy to rinse off (lingering bacteria can cause
dreaded urinary tract infections), and it won’t stain sheets. If you
use condoms, you definitely need to stay away from petroleum-or
oil-based lubricants, since they can erode latex quickly. And women
who are prone to yeast infections should look for a lube that doesn’t
contain glycerin, which contains sugars that promote yeast growth.
The author brings to this book 25 years of experience as a leading sex therapist and sexologist in order to present the basic
knowledge needed to help achieve orgasm during intercourse.
These pages are intended for those who see it as a means of
enriching their lives and sexual relationships. Nothing could
be further from his mind than to fuel the feeling of being pressured to perform or to preach ideological sexual standards.
And it is certainly nothis intent to explain to women how to “come”. Numerous authors have
already endeavored to do so over the last decade, as evidenced by the stacks of “how-to” manuals they have penned. Instead, the author attempts to gain some sexological perspective and
highlight those contexts best suited for changing attitudes about promoting orgasm.According to estimates, approximately 10% of all women are generally anorgasmic. This means that
they are unable to reach sexual climax despite the presence of the proper situational framework and despite being appropriately and sufficiently stimulated, neitherby masturbating nor
during sexual intercourse. The percentage of women unable to climax during sexual intercourse, but indeed able to experience orgasm during other forms ofsexual activity, amounts
to over 60%. These women are referred to as coitally or vaginally anorgasmic. The term preorgasmic has a much more pleasant ring to it, as it has a lessjudgmental connotation. However,
this term is found even less frequently in the literature.In Shere Hite’s famous Hite Report,
only 30% of the women interviewed indicated that they were able to achieve coital orgasm
either “always” or “almost always”. Those who checked the box “sometimes” or “rarely” were
not included in this statistic. Other authors reported similar figures, leading to the conclusion
that 38% had never been able to reach orgasm during intercourse. In terms of frequency of
orgasm, large cultural differences appear to prevail. The book helps the reader to understand
the female orgasm and explains ways to improve a female’s sex life.
Label Pressel Publishing Services
Manufacturer Pressel Publishing Services
Publisher
Pressel Publishing Services
Studio Pressel Publishing Services
Title Sexology of the Vaginal Orgasm
Is Adult Product
1
Author Dr. Karl F. Stifter
Languages English
Publication Date
2010-03-04
Available at www.luvland.co.za
R140.00