Love Sleep Report Final 2020 Love Sleep Report FINAL | Page 8

But it’s the fact that our tech devices are so
present in the bedroom that fuels their
tendency to distract us from being intimate
with our partners.
For two thirds (66%) of us, the bedroom is
where most physical intimacy takes place; but
increasingly we have to compete for our part-
ners’ attention in this space.
How many of us are truly
able to switch off with a
view to getting turned on
in the bedroom?
TECHNOLOGY USAGE
AS A CONCERN WAS MOST
PREVALENT WITH UNDER 45’ S :
81%
72%
60%
53%
45%
Tech has dissolved the ‘9-5’ model of working;
there is a blurring of the boundaries between
work and home; and currently we are a society
obsessed with the idea that busyness is potency.
Switching off is seen as being unproductive or
not getting stuff done, and although it – and
self-care – are regularly discussed as methods of
achieving balance, many people struggle with
the idea of being ‘unfocussed or doing nothing’.
To put this in context, 83% of us agree that
most people are too fixated on their phones
these days, and nearly half of us (48%)
acknowledge that we personally spend too
much time on our phones.
My partner
thinks I
spend too
much time
on my phone
I spend too
much time
using my
phone
44%
My
partner
and I have
argued
about my
/his/her
phone use
I think my
partner
spends too
much time
on his/her
phone
51% 51%
I worry
about the
amount
of time I
spend on
my phone
I feel
guilty
about my
phone use
I worry about
the amount of
time my partner
spends on his/
her phone
Most people
are too fixated
on their phones
these days
It is also a
distraction,
taking us out of
the current
WE OFTEN TOUCH
situation and
OUR TECH FIRST
transporting us
THING IN THE
elsewhere. I went
MORNING AND
to a conference
LAST THING AT
last year which
NIGHT, EVEN IF IN
described us all as
BED WITH
‘technosexuals’,
SOMEONE ELSE
stating that most
of our primary
relationships
would be with
tech rather than
another person. It’s a grim thought, but when
you consider it, then it’s probably the reality.”
“
“
seduced
by technology
Kate Moyle explains the impact this can have:
“Tech creates a barrier in the bedroom. Think
about how you know your partner wants to
start some form of physical intimacy – the
indicators are touch, eye-contact, kissing; tech
hinders these things even happening, as we are
so absorbed in our screens.
Once again, it is the under 45’s who seem to
be impacted by this most, reporting they spend
more time using their phones in bed than they
do chatting, cuddling or engaging in sexual
activity with their partner – in fact over a third
(35%) sleep closer to their phone than their
partners, and nearly as many (31%) admit to
having avoided sexual advances from their
partner by being fixated on their phone –
literally using it as a barrier to intimacy.
WHAT DO YOU SPEND THE
MOST TIME DOING IN BED
BEFORE GOING TO SLEEP?
under 45’s
over 45’s
USING PHONE CHATTING
CHATTING CUDDLING
WATCHING TV READING
CUDDLING WATCHING TV
READING USING PHONE
SEXUAL ACTIVITY SEXUAL ACTIVITY