REFLECTIONS
REFLECTIONS: EXPECTATIONS
AUTHOR Teresita Bacani-Oropilla, MD
S
o swiftly did the holiday season fly
by with its reunions, reconciliations,
gaiety and exchanges of love. Mem-
bers of an older generation were
introduced to their newest descen-
dants frolicking by, those who will
eventually take their places in this ily, they learn through friends, their immediate environments and
the ever-present purveyors of the outside world, TVs, devices and
the internet. They learn instantly there is a tantalizing and exciting
world out there, one they are eager to explore.
Inevitable comparisons of physiognomy, energy level, imputed
intelligence, physical beauty and mannerisms were made. Predic-
tions of what these young ones will become were likewise discussed
with much enthusiasm. But in an abundant society that touts individual freedom to
choose, restless young souls can frugally exist on their own if they
insist on having their way. Without thoughts of the distant future
they fritter away their learning years in a state of status quo, just to
keep afloat. Without help, they may end up without roots or skills:
this forebodes ill for the future.
world.
Astonishingly, many of our previous predictions did come true
with the sandwich generation, now taking care of aged parents and
dealing with active adults of their own. Was it because they were
made with eyes and hearts of love? Or were they just fulfilling the
old adage that “the apple does not fall far from the tree,” or the more
banal “monkey see, monkey do?”
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In more conservative countries where children are economically
dependent on their elders until they are ready to stand on their own
two feet, parents and caretakers are able to influence, direct or even
coerce the setting of goals and lifetime partners.
On the other hand, others acquire maturity enough to paddle
their own canoes. Reaching their goals, they have proven their
mettle. They then show up at family reunions and are hailed as
self-made men and women.
Casual observations do confirm that many a grown child, indeed,
raised in an atmosphere of expectation, acceptance and success,
does follow family trends. Yes, it is the beginning of a new decade, 2020. We embrace it
with hope. Only we can make it a success. We, too, can show our
mettle!
One wonders if this still proves true with the third and fourth
generations? Exposed to other influences outside of the close fam- Dr. Bacani-Oropilla is a retired psychiatrist.
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