Louisville Medicine Volume 63, Issue 5 | Page 37

DOCTORS’ LOUNGE (continued from page 35) Is it rape? Women have been raped in every army, in every war, in every era. But military rapists get away with it better. Their victims are often outranked, and thus feel powerless in their actual units, even if the official Pentagon dogma is that those who report rape will be supported at every step, with a full investigation. Those who report a rape later report losing their identities in their platoon or squadron, being treated as traitors or sissies, losing the respect and friendship of the men who serve alongside them, and being shut out and harassed in ways that make their daily lives hellish. The Pentagon estimates that 1 in 10 servicewomen has been raped, and that 13 percent have been sexually assaulted in some way. Having been raped, and having been treated for PTSD, are factors much more common in female veterans who attempt or complete suicide than in other female veterans. cumbersome everything-in-triplicate dinosaur that is still our VA medical system. The entrenched bureaucracy of rules and regulators is a nightmare for doctors too. Women can fill more combat roles than ever before. Women who qualify do get the job way more often in the military world than the civilian. Yet women who have survived roadside bombs in infantry units, flown combat missions, worked feverishly under fire as medics to save their buddies – volunteers all – cannot get basic health care without a fight. What’s more, it is the most soul-killing of fights, a war of waiting and phone calls and paperwork and obstacles, whose eternal message is, “You don’t matter.” But it should never, ever be a nightmare for patients, especially our women who are feeling abandoned, in despair, and own guns. Thinking patriotic thoughts on Veterans’ Day is nice, but what our women need is action, and a President who will put women first – for once. I have yet to hear any candidate propose a reasonable and effective solution to the Dr. Barry practices Internal Medicine with Norton Community Medical Associates-Barret. She is a clinical associate professor at the University of Louisville School of Medicine, Department of Medicine. THE PARABLE OF TWO DOCTORS Frank G. Simon, MD O nce there were twin boys named John and Tom. As soon as they were old enough to go to school, their parents taught them that studying was very important. They both did well academically and finally ended up in medical school where they both graduated with honors. After finishing fellowships, they joined a large practice and again they were both very successful. They both jogged, ate fruits and vegetables, but no red meat. Then, one day something unusual happened. John had a patient with a mass in his abdomen. The biopsy showed cancer, probably of the pancreas. A PET scan confirmed carcinomatosis. It was John’s job to tell the patient. When John told him that he had terminal cancer, the man did not seem to be upset. In fact, he was so calm that John finally asked him why he was so calm. The man picked up his Bible which was at his side and said, “I am trusting in Jesus and when I leave here, I am going to a better place.” John thought about what his patient had told him for some time, but eventually he forgot about it. After all he had been taught that only uneducated people believe in God. Besides that, sin is just an old, outdated idea. John told his brother Tom about his unusual patient. Tom was interested and went to hear the story for himself. Tom said to himself, this man may be going to a better place, but I will go to a worse place. Some day I will go out into eternity and stand before my Maker. On that day, it will not really matter how many degrees I have or how much money I have. If I don’t have what this man has, I will have missed everything. Tom realized that there are only two paths through this life. One is “My Way,” the other is “His Way.” The farther we walk down “My Way” the harder it becomes and life has less and less meaning. “His Way” may have some difficulties, but it is the way of joy and peace of mind and purpose and calling. Tom remembered the words of an old song he had heard as a child: “Ere you left your house this morning, did you stop to pray? Did you ask the Lord to help you, keep you safe throughout the day?” When we walk in “His Way” there is always a Friend who walks with us and guides us through the hard spots. We’ll always have the One who said, “I will never leave you or forsake you,” the One who said, “Come unto Me, all of you who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give