Looking after someone 2017, Northern Ireland | Page 7

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Noticing when we’re too stressed

Stress can alert us to
potential dangers and spur
us on to achieve a goal.
However, sometimes the
balance tips too far and
the pressure becomes so
intense or persistent that
we may feel unable to cope.
As soon as we notice it
getting too much, it’s
helpful to talk about how
we feel rather than hoping
the stress will go away.

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“Sometimes stress and tiredness take
their toll. One night we had a fight about
nothing. At the time I didn’t know what
to do or where I could go for help. That’s
how it feels when we’re under stress.”

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Making difficult decisions

There will be points when we are faced with a particularly emotional
or difficult decision.
Sometimes it’s a decision we have planned for, or at least held at the
back of our minds. Sometimes it’s completely unexpected and leaves
us feeling out of control. Where we can, thinking about decisions in
advance can help us keep a cool head when it comes to the crunch.
“It’s better to be prepared
and to do some research
about different options,
even if you’re not sure
what route you’ll go
down. I couldn’t have
selected the right care
home whilst mum was in
hospital, in the middle of
that stressful time.”

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