At London Contacts we believe everyone deserves this sort of love and acceptance . But life is complicated .
Many providers have not only found themselves in unhealthy relationships , but they ’ ve also stayed with those partners because they don ’ t think they can find somebody else who would be as accepting of their profession . “ We invest so much in our partner because we know we have a special situation ,” says Maggie .
Revealing the truth can be a scary proposition for a provider , especially when that information has been withheld for a long time . But it can also be liberating ; it can help a relationship .
According to Amelia P , in her article “ When To Disclose That You ’ re A Sex Worker To A Romantic Partner ” it is unlikely that a person will go through life as a sex worker without experiencing some sort of discrimination or put-down because of their job .
However , Amelia P urges sex workers to learn how to accept their job as a positive , not a negative . “ Remember your job is NOT embarrassing and it is NOT something to be ashamed of ,” she said . “ We might envy those who never have to worry about telling someone they like that they are a sex worker . It ’ s completely normal to dread telling someone , as we are all too familiar with the ignorance that many subscribe to about sex work ; “ Does that mean I can fuck other people too ?” or simply pure disgust at the idea of sex exchanged for money .
Many sex workers have dated people in the past who treated them awfully because of their work , and often because they hadn ’ t truly accepted their job .
If this happens to you , we want you to reality check yourself . You can ’ t afford the consequences of a relationship with someone who doesn ’ t accept YOU when there ’ s room for beautiful relationships with people to whom your job is irrelevant .
Written by Phil Shirley
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