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NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2015
Reaching Out
Advice for helping friends
in mourning
by Lisa M. Petsche , Staff Writer
When someone you know loses
a loved one to death, you want to
reach out to them but may feel unsure of what to say or do. Perhaps
you haven’t lost someone close,
and it’s difficult to appreciate what
your friend is going through and
anticipate their needs. Here are
some tips to help you show you
care:
• Don’t agonize over what to
say. Keep it simple and heartfelt –
for example, “I’m so sorry” or “My
heart goes out to you” or “I’m here
for you” or perhaps even, “I’m at
a loss for words.” Avoid empty
platitudes such as, “It’s for the
best” or “You still have a lot to be
thankful for.”
• Let your friend do the talking
and listen attentively and nonjudgmentally.
• Refrain from giving advice.
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