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• Discuss Mutual Expectations
and Goals. There are numerous
reasons an adult child moves back
home. These could be emotional,
economic or educational reasons.
The specific circumstances of the
situation will speak to the desired
goals. A good opening for this
discussion is: “Let’s talk about what
each of us needs. What’s going
to make this work best?” Mutual
expectations set the groundwork
for respecting each other’s needs
and boundaries, which should be
covered explicitly by setting ground
rules.
• Establish Ground Rules. These
can include expected behaviors,
household costs and chores and the
time limit for the arrangement. The
message needs to be: To live in this
house, you need to show us you are
working toward independence –
Do not enable! This is the No. 1
thing you as a parent can do to help
both you and your child. Although
it’s done with the best intentions,
caretaking is not the same as caring
for children. Caretaking is doing
something for the child that she
can do for herself.
You’ll know the situation is
working out if everyone is doing their fair share, doing what
they’ve agreed to do and everyone
is respectful of each other. You’ll
know if it isn’t working because
someone isn’t pulling their weight,
is overstepping boundaries or there
are hurt and resentful feelings.
From time to time, sit down and
talk about how it’s going. Be sure
to listen to what your child has to
say. If one or all of you feel there
are problems, you can always “start
fresh.” If the situation is really out of
hand, you may have to say the child
will have to leave within a month.
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