Living Well 60+ July-August 2014 | Page 13

J U LY / A U G 2 0 1 4 Misconceptions About Caregiving Add Stress Demands can be physical, emotional, psychological by Lisa M. Petsche, Staff Writer Caring for a chronically ill or medically frail relative can offer many rewards, but it also involves physical, psychological and emotional demands. It can be particularly challenging when the care receiver has heavy hands-on needs, a difficult personality or mental impairment. Stress can be further compounded by certain thoughts and belief systems. Here are some common misconceptions among caregivers and the unhealthy behaviors that typically result from them. Faulty Thinking. The caregiver believes: • He or she can and should provide all the care. • No one else can take good care of the care receiver. • Medical professionals are wrong about the care receiver’s diagnosis, prognosis or healthcare needs. Maladaptive Behavior. The caregiver: • Devotes all his or her time and energy to caregiving. • Declines assistance. • Promises the care receiver he or she will never have to live in a long-term-care residence. • Withholds from other family members information about the care receiver’s condition and needs. Healthy Coping These are some adaptive coping strategies caregivers can use to prevent falling into destructive behavior patterns. Acceptance • An important first step is to accept the reality of your care receiver’s illness. Allow yourself to experience all the emotions that surface. Make a conscious decision to let go of any bitterness resulting from unrealized plans and dreams so you can move forward and channel your energy in constructive ways. • Accept that the way your care receiver feels and what they can do may fluctuate, and be flexible about plans. Information • Ask a friend to research your care receiver’s health condition. Share the information among family members. Knowledge is power. • Be open to learning practical skills, such as proper transferring and bathing techniques. Take a tour and join us for lunch, on us! Ma