LifeGrid Magazine May 2017 | Page 26

FEATURED ARTICLE DINA MARAIS ‘Self Doubt’ S ELF DOUBT IS NOT SOMETHING TO be ashamed of, it is just something you need to be free of. I work with entrepreneurs to transform their self-doubt into greatness. When I mention self-doubt I include all the surviving emotions of unworthiness, fear of failure, scarcity, uncertainty, anxiety about the future, etc. This has also been my own story. I grew up believing I was not good enough. This resulted in self-doubt and self-sabo- tage that impacted my life on so many levels. I made it my mission to help others overcome this path of self-destruc- tion. Where does it come from? The seeds of self-doubt are sown in childhood and it happens through the messages we receive about ourselves from parents, care givers and teach- ers. Unknowingly these important influencers cultivate a culture of performance and competition where the child is praised when performing well and reprimanded, punished or worse, ignored when not. The child learns that she is loved, accepted and approved of when performing according to others’ expectations. This LIFEGRID MAGAZINE | LIFEGRID.COM.AU results in people comparing themselves to others and measuring their self-worth in terms of what they do, have and other people’s opinions. What actually happens is that self-worth is confused with self-confidence. When your self-worth is conditioned upon anything external to you, your self-worth is on a roller coaster ride. Why? Because things change, people change, you change. Clients come to me when they cannot endure the pain of struggling with self-doubt and its path of destructive self-sabotage any longer. Most of them have taken on the personality of a victim and they think that they are the only one who has this problem. This is not unusual as one of the symptoms is to feel disconnected and separate from, even abandoned by Spirit. Much to their surprise they learn that there are many more like them. And much to their delight they learn that they can free themselves from self-doubt including all the surviv- ing emotions. What actually happens is that they free them- selves from the past and create a new body-mind of who they truly are and want to be. How do we do that? I call it my 4 Step Transformation Magic System. MAY 2017