Life Without Conflict 35
like rocks. This goes for everyone, therefore it is better to say as little as possible. It is not worth saying or telling anyone, anything. On the contrary, you make things worse by your words. If you tell someone not to be late for the train, he will end up being late and if you do not say a word, he will be on time. Everything works fine if you remain silent. Your words are nothing but ego. Children will start to improve from the day you stop nagging them. The words you utter are not helpful and that is why they become agitated. Children do not accept your words and that is why your words bounce back. You should carry out your duties of providing food and shelter for your children and fulfill all your obligations; nothing else is worth doing or saying. Do you understand that you will not gain anything by telling them anything? The children are grown up now. Are they likely to fall down the stairs now? Why are you neglecting your own spiritual welfare? Your duty towards children is a relative duty. It is not worth interfering in it. Instead of bickering, it is better if you just remain silent. You ruin your mind and the minds of others by bickering.
Questioner: Children do not understand their responsibilities.
Dadashri: The responsibility lies in the hands of vyavasthit. Children are aware of their responsibilities but because you do not know how to communicate with them, you make a mess of things. Your recommendations are only correct if the children follow them. If parents talk nonsense, children’ s behavior will be senseless too.
Questioner: Children talk back rudely.
Dadashri: Yes, but how will you stop them? If you stop talking back to them, they will too, and all unnecessary hurtful words will cease. Only then will everyone benefit.
If you get into a disagreement with someone, it will create