Life Without Conflict Life Without Conflict | Page 147

130
Life Without Conflict
of the other person. The Gnani speaks for the benefit of the
other person. Why would I have the need to speak? The
Gnani’s speech emanates purely for the purpose of fulfilling the
wishes of others. But, when others speak, before they say even
a word, there will be so much disruption; so many karmas
come to be bound. You should not speak even a word! To utter
anything at all, is considered nagging. Speech worthy of being
called speech is one that others like to hear, even when that
person is reprimanding, people like listening to him. But
otherwise, before you utter even a word, they tell you to stop
nagging and interfering. Reprimanding can only be beneficial if
you do so without any prejudice, but prejudice is inevitable.
Prejudice means to make mental notes, ‘Yesterday he did such
and such and I had to tell him off. That is so typical of him.’
According to God the one who reprimands members of the
family, is foolish. It is a sign of going to hell when you hurt
anyone.
The Fishing Line and the Bait
No other living species, except man exercises his
authority as a husband. Nowadays, they file for a divorce! They
tell their attorneys, “I will pay you two thousand rupees, if you
handle my divorce.” The attorney will agree, the foolish man!
Why not take a divorce yourself instead of getting one for
others?
I will tell you a story of an old lady I knew. As she was
preparing for savarni (ritual after the death of a loved one
where things dear to the departed one, are gathered on a bed,
and given to the priest), she said, “Your uncle liked to eat this
and he also like to eat this...” She carried on this manner as she
made her nephew put things on the savarni bed. I told her,
“Dear mother, you used to fight with uncle all the time, and
sometimes uncle used to beat you too. So why are you doing