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130 Life Without Conflict of the other person. The Gnani speaks for the benefit of the other person. Why would I have the need to speak? The Gnani’s speech emanates purely for the purpose of fulfilling the wishes of others. But, when others speak, before they say even a word, there will be so much disruption; so many karmas come to be bound. You should not speak even a word! To utter anything at all, is considered nagging. Speech worthy of being called speech is one that others like to hear, even when that person is reprimanding, people like listening to him. But otherwise, before you utter even a word, they tell you to stop nagging and interfering. Reprimanding can only be beneficial if you do so without any prejudice, but prejudice is inevitable. Prejudice means to make mental notes, ‘Yesterday he did such and such and I had to tell him off. That is so typical of him.’ According to God the one who reprimands members of the family, is foolish. It is a sign of going to hell when you hurt anyone. The Fishing Line and the Bait No other living species, except man exercises his authority as a husband. Nowadays, they file for a divorce! They tell their attorneys, “I will pay you two thousand rupees, if you handle my divorce.” The attorney will agree, the foolish man! Why not take a divorce yourself instead of getting one for others? I will tell you a story of an old lady I knew. As she was preparing for savarni (ritual after the death of a loved one where things dear to the departed one, are gathered on a bed, and given to the priest), she said, “Your uncle liked to eat this and he also like to eat this...” She carried on this manner as she made her nephew put things on the savarni bed. I told her, “Dear mother, you used to fight with uncle all the time, and sometimes uncle used to beat you too. So why are you doing