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child, or your wife for just one hour, then in your next life they
will come to you as your wife or your mother-in-law, and
torment you your entire life! Is justice not needed? This is what
you have to suffer. If you ever hurt anyone, then you will have
to face a lifetime of suffering. If you hurt someone for just one
hour, you will have to tolerate a lifetime worth of suffering. Then
you will complain and question, ‘Why is my wife treating me
this way?’ and your wife is asking herself, ‘Why do I behave
this way with my husband?’ She too feels unhappy but what
can anyone do? I asked one man whether he chose his wife or
whether his wife chose him, and he told me he had chosen his
wife. So how can you blame the poor wife? Once you bring her
home and she turns out to be contrary to your expectations,
what can she do? Where is she to go? Many women actually
beat their husbands!
Questioner : If a man takes the beating, is he not
considered spineless and a weakling?
Dadashri : Accepting a beating is not considered a
weakness in a man. His karmic ties are such that his wife has
come to him for the sole reason of making him suffer and she
has no choice but avenge the karmic tie between them.
The ‘Tops’ Are Clashing And Bleeding Mentally
You should never consider scolding anyone in your life.
Scolding is really a disease. To scold someone is nothing but
ego, overt ego and a mad one at that. A person may think to
himself, ‘Unless I tell him off, he will not shape up.’ On the
contrary, scolding someone will put a strain on you. Do people
enjoy reprimanding others?
At home, you should only give advice if someone asks
for it. God has said that giving advice to anyone without being
asked is egoism. You may ask your wife where to put the