Life Without Conflict 109
Dadashri: If you apply the agna of vyavasthit, then there will be no problems. If you do, you will not have any questions. When your husband comes home, get his dinner ready and call him down to eat, do not try to change his prakruti. His prakruti you were aware of when you chose him to be your husband, has to be observed till the end. Did you not know what his prakruti was like from the very beginning? You should have left him from the beginning, why did you allow yourself to be ruined more?
There is no benefit to be gained in your worldly life through nagging; you will only incur a loss. To nag is to quarrel. That is why God has called it a‘ kashaya’.
As problems increase between the two of you, you will start to fall apart. Once the problem is solved, you will not separate. There is sorrow in separation, and besides everyone has problems, you two are not an exception. Problems are inevitable in every marriage.
Quarrels will continue because of past karmas and as they come into effect, but at least stop your negative talking. Keep your personal problems to yourself; do not discuss them within or outside your home.
The Distinct Separation
Questioner: Our prakrutis may not improve but at least our worldly interactions( vyavahar) should.
Dadashri: People do not know how to conduct their vyavahar( worldly interactions) at all. If they had the knowledge, for even half an hour, it would be plenty. No one has understood worldly interactions. What is the definition of‘ worldly interactions’? Superficial. The real definition of worldly interactions is that it is not real. It is only superficial! People have believed it to be real. The reality of this worldly life is