Life Without Conflict 99
husband will pounce on her , “ How can you buy such expensive vegetables ?” She will accuse him of attacking her and will retaliate with double the force . How can anyone resolve such problems ? If your wife buys expensive vegetables , you should say , “ Well done ! I am very fortunate because a miser like me would never be able to enjoy such expensive vegetables .”
I was invited to stay over at someone ’ s house one day . I observed resentment in his wife as she shoved a cup of tea in front of him . I understood immediately that the two must have had a disagreement . I called his wife over and asked her why she was sulking . She said , “ It ’ s nothing like that .” I told her , “ I know what ’ s bothering you . Why are you hiding things from me ? When you shoved the teacup in front of him , even your husband understood . Let go of this deceit ( kapat ) if you want to be happy .”
Men are naive and they tend to forgive easily , while women on the other hand , hold on to the events ; words their husbands said to them will remain fresh in their minds forty years later . Therefore , you must be cautious when you interact with women . Exercise caution when you want some work done through them . Women will get their work done through you , but you men do not know how to do the same with them .
If your wife wants to buy a sari worth one hundred and fifty rupees , you should give her extra twenty-five rupees . She will be happy for six more months . You have to understand life as it is . You men do not know how to live life and yet you go in search of a wife . You become a husband without qualifications . You must have the certificate for becoming a husband before you earn the right to become a father . Here you men become fathers without qualifications and on top of that , you become grandfathers ! When will you wind up everything ( the worldly life ) and go to moksha ? You have to understand .