Life Without Conflict 99
husband will pounce on her,“ How can you buy such expensive vegetables?” She will accuse him of attacking her and will retaliate with double the force. How can anyone resolve such problems? If your wife buys expensive vegetables, you should say,“ Well done! I am very fortunate because a miser like me would never be able to enjoy such expensive vegetables.”
I was invited to stay over at someone’ s house one day. I observed resentment in his wife as she shoved a cup of tea in front of him. I understood immediately that the two must have had a disagreement. I called his wife over and asked her why she was sulking. She said,“ It’ s nothing like that.” I told her,“ I know what’ s bothering you. Why are you hiding things from me? When you shoved the teacup in front of him, even your husband understood. Let go of this deceit( kapat) if you want to be happy.”
Men are naive and they tend to forgive easily, while women on the other hand, hold on to the events; words their husbands said to them will remain fresh in their minds forty years later. Therefore, you must be cautious when you interact with women. Exercise caution when you want some work done through them. Women will get their work done through you, but you men do not know how to do the same with them.
If your wife wants to buy a sari worth one hundred and fifty rupees, you should give her extra twenty-five rupees. She will be happy for six more months. You have to understand life as it is. You men do not know how to live life and yet you go in search of a wife. You become a husband without qualifications. You must have the certificate for becoming a husband before you earn the right to become a father. Here you men become fathers without qualifications and on top of that, you become grandfathers! When will you wind up everything( the worldly life) and go to moksha? You have to understand.