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her make mistakes. I told him in confidence that she makes a
note of every slap she gets. He may not remember anything, but
she definitely will. Alas! Even his little children, who watch
intently when he hits her, will make a note of it. Then the mother
and the children will get together and join forces against him and
take their revenge. When will they do this? They will do this
when his body becomes old and weak. Therefore, you must
never hit a woman. By hitting a woman, you hurt only yourself
and create your own obstacles.
Let me tell you what dependency is. If you beat a
tethered cow, where can she go? How can she escape the
beatings? People in a household are like the tethered cows. If
you beat them, you are nothing but a shameless beast. Why
don’t you untie her and then beat her? She’ll hit you back or
she will run away. How can you ever call it a noble act if you
beat someone who is absolutely helpless? These are the acts of
spineless cowards! You can never hurt anyone in your
household; only those who have no understanding will do so.
If You Complain, You Are At Fault
Questioner : Dada, who will listen to my complaints?
Dadashri : If you complain, you become the culprit. I
regard anyone that comes complaining to me as being the
culprit. Why is it that you even have an occasion to complain
in the first place? Very often, people who complain are culprits
themselves. If you complain, you are the culprit and the person
you accuse will become the plaintiff, he will now have a
complaint against you. So, never complain about anyone.
Questioner : So what should I do?
Dadashri : If the other person appears wrong to you,
you have to tell yourself, “He is the nicest man and I am the one
at fault.” If you have multiplied your negative opinions about