90 Life Without Conflict
missed the nine o’ clock train, so she will make a comment like,“ How careless of you that you miss your train!” He will then get irritated and think to himself,“ Even if God were to say such things, I would beat him up!” But what can he do here? This is how husband and wife meddle without any reason. It’ s like putting sand in your tasty basmati rice and eating it. What possible enjoyment can you get eating that rice? Husbands and wives should help each other. A wife should speak with her husband in a manner that will not cause him to worry and the husband should do the same. He should understand how difficult and frustrating children can be when they do not behave. If things break in the home, he should not complain or get angry. Some men make a big fuss over broken crockery or china; they will blame the wife and keep reminding her. The wife in turn retaliates and they will fight over the most insignificant things.
Hiraba and I never have any differences of opinions! I never interfere with anything she does. Even if she happens to drop some money, I will not say to her,“ Do you know you’ ve dropped some money?” I never interfere with any domestic matters and she never interferes in any of my business matters. She never questions what time I will wake up, when I will take my bath, or what time I will come home or leave home. Sometimes she tells me to take an early bath and I will do so without questioning her. I will even fetch my own towel and clothes because when she tells me to take an early bath, she is waving a red flag; she must have a reason to do so. Perhaps the water is going to be shut off or something, therefore I understand. You too, should gradually try to understand that no one should interfere in anyone else’ s business.
If a police officer were to arrest you and take you away, do you not do as you are told? Wouldn’ t you sit where he told you? You should understand that as long as you are in this