year old daughter) moved to
North Carolina from Northern
Virginia. We noticed that in social
gatherings when my son didn’t
know a lot of kids, he chose to sit
with us instead of playing with
kids. Me trying to introduce him
to new friends was embarrassing
for him. We wanted our son to be
social and play with everyone, so
we pushed him. It only seemed to
have the opposite effect. Me and
my husband are very social and
this left us extremely frustrated.
Initially I thought that the reason
for our frustration was my son but
eventually I realized that it was
my not accepting him. As soon
I realized this and accepted this
new development in him, it was
easier to make him feel comfort-
able in new situations. We don’t
push anymore and if he chooses
to sit with us it is perfectly fine,
but we do try to work with him so
he starts feeling comfortable in
any new environment. Although
this is still a work in progress for
us, it has definitely improved our
relationship with him.
A lot of times our judgement of
other person is reflection our own
self. Somewhere deep in our
hearts, we may have not accepted or have simply ignored some
of our own characteristics. It is
very important to accept yourself. If you stop trying to expect
yourselves to do everything right,
it will be easier to not expect the
same from others.
2. FORGIVENESS
When someone has hurt you at
an emotional or physical level,
forgiving them can be extremely difficult. However, forgiveness is not something that you
do for others, it is something that
you do for yourselves. On the
flip side if you are the one who
needs forgiveness, it is important
to first forgive yourself, let go of
the baggage that you are holding and release yourself of any
guilt. Anger, resentment or guilt
that stems from such pain actually takes exhaustive amount
of energy rather than forgiving
yourselves or others. Forgive-
ness is a process. It may take
days to practice forgiveness and
to come to the state of closure.
However, time spent practicing
forgiveness may result in healing
you, making you strong and giving you emotional freedom.
If you have already accepted that
person the way they are, practicing forgiveness maybe easier. However, there can be situations where every cell in your
body refuses to forgive. At that
moment, what do you do? Well
I try to put m