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consider, especially when exploring how to improve the engagement of at-risk or strug- gling students, center around what makes a person do difficult tasks? What makes any- one do something they don’t like and are not good at? Answering these questions begins with understanding the stories students tell themselves about themselves when things go poorly. When a girl or boy has a new experience, let’s say failing a math test, his/her brain’s job is to answer “Why did that happen?” How he/she answers this question will have a large impact on his/her subsequent confidence and motivation to take future math tests. If the student believes, as many young people do, that his/her prospects for math are perma- nently fixed, he/she may be inclined to see little purpose in trying harder or learning new strategies. In contrast, students who be- lieve hard work pays off and have a sense of purpose are more inclined to see the results as temporary and explore pathways to correct their mistakes. The goal of skilled teachers is to teach students to adopt a narrative that gives stu- dents what is often referred to as a “Growth mindset,” the belief that successes and fail- ures are temporary, can be changed and that the student is capable of changing his or her fortunes. Fortunately, there is a consis- tent formula in psychological research that we can rely on in our efforts to understand how to help our students adopt this growth mindset. When we as teachers help students answer yes to these questions, we help them move from a focus on self-protection, fight or flight primitive section of the brain to a focus on learning and utilizing the executive function areas of the brain, that are inte- gral to self-control, problem-solving and so forth. Do I belong? The process of shifting students from a focus on self-protection to engaged curios- ity begins with providing students a sense of belonging. The brain will not be able to focus on learning until it feels safe and socially accepted. The classroom is a highly social place, everything a student does is observed and judged by their peers. The act of a stu- dent raising her hand to say “I don’t under- Belonging is the foundation of community. Shared experiences and similarities are the path to creating belonging.” stand” is an act of great courage. In order to publicly admit in front of 30 of your peers that you don’t understand something is to risk ridicule, laughter and shame. As Harvard Professor Amy Edmond- son’s research on psychological safety ex- plains, in highly public settings such as a classroom, it is quite natural for individu- als to engage in what is called “impression management.”.When we are in a highly pub- lic setting, it is a natural human reaction to engage in behaviors that manage how others perceive us. As Edmondson explains, many students don’t want to look ignorant and so they don’t ask questions or admit weakness. When students are focused on managing the impressions of their peers, many students will refuse to engage in the learning process of sharing ideas, making mistakes and ask- ing questions in order to keep from being judged and criticized. Psychological safety is ‘‘a sense of con- fidence that the team will not embarrass, reject or punish someone for speaking up,’’ Edmondson wrote in a study published in 1999, that has now been cited more than 6,000 times in research. ‘‘It describes a team climate characterized by interpersonal trust and mutual respect in which people are com- fortable being themselves.’’ Until a student has this sense of safety, they will focus on impression management rather than engage in the risky behaviors of asking questions, accepting feedback and making mistakes. The need for belonging is what makes school climate efforts such as Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports so important. Belonging is the foundation of commu- nity. Shared experiences and similarities are the path to creating belonging. As human influence and sales expert Robert Cialdini (2016) explains, the best relationships sim- ply allow people to say “oh, that person is one of us.” Confirming this idea, New York University Professor John Haidt (2012) explains in his best-selling book, “You can make people care less about race by drown- ing race differences in a sea of similarities, shared goals and mutual interdependencies.” Stanford researcher Gregory Walton and others (2012) confirmed this idea in their re- search where they showed that simply telling students they shared the same birthday re- sulted in greater motivation and persistence on math problems. The researchers conclude “Even small social connections lead people to adopt the goals and motivation of others for themselves.” Does this matter to me? The second question we must help stu- dents answer if we want them to do hard things, take chances, ask questions and make mistakes is “Does this matter to me?” In spite of our best efforts, learning to cross- multiply fractions, memorizing the periodic table of elements or practicing the intricacies of comma placement are not fun. Students, like all people, will not put forth the effort, time and struggle necessary to master diffi- cult tasks unless they feel it has relevance to their life. November | December 2018 25