I give them opportunity to get to deepen their faith and trust in the Lord .
Yes , I still want to support them and provide guidance when they ask for it . I want to lean in and love . I want to listen well . I want to lead with humility . And I want to be a safe place for them to land when they need comfort and reassurance . us back .
When we love our kids as our Heavenly Father loves us , there is so much freedom ! It ’ s no longer about results-based parenting for a cookie-cut kid but love-centered parenting that meets every child , not as a wild animal to be tamed , but as a treasure to be loved .
But ultimately , I have to let them go . They have to wrestle through their beliefs and convictions . They have to learn to slowly grow wings and fly . They need to process through hurts and hard things .
And it ’ s okay if I don ’ t have solutions or answers or quick fixes . Yes , it ’ s hard for my mama heart who wants to swoop in and rescue and be the hero . But sometimes , the greatest gift I can give my kids is to let go and sit on the sidelines cheering for them .
The beauty of these four choices to lean in and love , listen well , lead with humility , and let go are that they are not dependent upon our kids ’ choices , responses , or actions . Loving well doesn ’ t require our child to obey , be kind , or love
Crystal Paine is the New York Times bestselling author of Say Goodbye to Survival Mode and is known widely as the Money Saving Mom . Crystal is a wife , a mom of four , a speaker , a podcaster , and an online entrepreneur . Her blog is one of the top personal finance blogs on the web . While she has gained widespread attention for her practical tips on finance , she has branched out to topics of faith , intentional living , parenting , gratitude , and time management . Her mission is to challenge women to manage their time and resources wisely and live life on purpose .
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