LEAD. August 2020 | Page 29

When our internet filter flagged pornographic content, I went to my teenage son. He threw his hands up, promising he had not been the one, and asked us to look at the sites that had been visited. I became curious at that point because we have our parameters set tightly. I soon saw the progression. What had started as my daughter enjoying a fan story of a heroic cat led her to encounter a full-blown rape scene. When approached, my daughter admitted that the content seemed bad but that most of it was over her head and “weird.” I nearly threw up when I read the title; someone had lured in kids with the promise of a new story about cats and had introduced violence and perversion. This is the world we live in, and it is both terrifying and infuriating. It is imperative that we have frank talks with our kids about the dangers of pornography and sex trafficking. Furthermore, we need to tell them that no matter how alluring or safe it may seem to participate in a sexual encounter outside of marriage, there will be consequences that Hollywood just does not depict. 4. Temptations do not define us. Staring down opportunities to sin is part of living. The question is not if our children will be tempted but when they will be tempted and how they will respond. Tell your child: • Temptation comes with being human; it’s what you do when you are tempted that matters. Run to Jesus for mercy, grace, and help. • Temptations can seize you, and there are some you cannot fight on your own. That is why you need to live in right relationship with the Holy Spirit and seek the help of your parents and friends. • There is no temptation nor urge Jesus can’t relate to and through which He can’t help you find a way. (1Cor. 10:13) • Your parents want to be your allies, and you can go to them with anything. Then practice your “I’m not surprised” face. We want our kids to run to us with their temptations 29