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vying for their attention. If you want to talk with someone, you have to make it easier for them to talk to you than to do something else.
Adapted from Discovering Your Communication Type by Jason VanRuler. Copyright Jason VanRuler ©( April 2026) by Zondervan. Used by permission of Zondervan, www. zondervan. com.
I am often reminded of this on airplanes. In the past— before the internet, in-flight television, and cell phones— people had to simply sit in their seat and decide between talking with the person next to them or reading a book. Those were the choices.“ Is this person more interesting than War and Peace?” But today that’ s not the case.
Today, if you want to talk with the person next to you on a plane, you have some competition. I think this is a good thing, but it means you need to up your game to be more interesting than old episodes of The Office. In our house, that’ s a pretty high bar to overcome.
Hands-down the best on-ramp to connection is when you meet someone else on their communication path. Consider for a moment the people who are closest to you. What paths are they on, and how could you communicate with them in a more connection-building and meaningful way today?
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Jason VanRuler, MA, CSAT, is a psychotherapist, author, and nationally recognized speaker specializing in communication, attachment, and relationships. He’ s the author of Discovering Your Communication Type and Get Past Your Past and founder of a thriving private practice. Known for blending insight, story, and strategy, Jason leads workshops, retreats, and intensives that explore the patterns shaping how we connect, lead, and thrive. His work creates space for clarity, growth, and lasting change. He lives with his wife and three children and enjoys travel, cycling, and fly fishing. 62