have them take a warm shower or bath.
You know your child or teenager best, so pay attention to what causes them to feel calm, and support them to do more of that.
3. Repair, if you need to.
In the moment of overstimulation, we may say or do things we later regret. The same is true for children. It’ s important that we don’ t ignore this break. Once everyone has returned to calm, we need to do the emotional work of repairing the relational connection.
Even if there was a reason behind your hurtful words or actions( overstimulation or your child doing the wrong thing), your actions still hurt your child and created a rupture in the relationship. When you take responsibility for your actions and apologize, you are repairing this emotional connection, maintaining the fabric of trust for a healthy relationship. You are also modeling“ best practices,” holding yourself to the same standards that you’ re trying to teach them. As children become older and move into adolescence, they become very attuned to hypocritical behavior— instances when you set boundaries on their behavior while not following these expectations yourself.
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