of abandonment , Carla ended up giving too much in the relationships around her . Out of a deep insecurity that a person would leave , she desperately gave everything she had . Even to people who didn ’ t deserve it . Even to people who were too unhealthy to give back . As the pattern emerged , Carla opened her eyes to the fact that she had been functioning out of deep wounds for many years . These deep wounds caused patterns that started in early childhood but repeated themselves in different seasons of her life . Before she could begin to heal , she first needed to acknowledge the pain of being abandoned by her mom . it . So let ’ s go there . Let ’ s do this . Together .
Excerpted with permission from Reset by Debra Fileta published by Harvest House Publishers , Eugene , Oregon , 97408 . Copyright 2023 , Debra Fileta . www . harvesthousepublishers . com
Your patterns might not be as obvious as Carla ’ s , but let me assure you , they are there . Patterns emerge in how you act , interact , feel , think , or behave . Those patterns need to be called out , examined , and faced . Because the only way we can successfully move forward is when we have successfully looked back . We all go waaaaay back , my friends . And sometimes it takes going backward to move forward . You ’ ve got to face it to replace
Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor , national speaker , relationship expert , and author of Reset : Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts , Understand Your Feelings , and Change Your Life , True Love Dates , Choosing Marriage , Love in Every Season , as well as Are You Really OK ? She ’ s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast . Her popular relationship advice blog , TrueLoveDates . com , reaches millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships .
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