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By Susan Velasquez
Has your ability to shine become a bit tarnished ? Are you settling for a muted , toned-down version of your imagined self ? Have you lost your vibrancy and zest for living and can ’ t remember where you misplaced it ?
Knowing where you are is the first step in making new decisions . Self-honesty might not be sexy , but it is crucial to your sanity .
Most of us make decisions based on what we like or don ’ t like . If we like something , we go after it , and
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we try to avoid what we don ’ t like . The “ I like it / I don ’ t like it ” approach will keep you stuck in a small , predictable life that can easily become stagnant and rigid . Why ? The only way you know beforehand what you like or don ’ t like is if you have already had a similar experience . Therefore , making your decisions based solely on your personal likes or dislikes stops life ’ s flow .
Nothing new can find you . You will stop the wonder and delight that comes through unanticipated experiences of synchronicity . The true gifts of the universe come wrapped in light and love . Openness and acceptance of new experiences require trust in the basic goodness of yourself and the basic goodness of your life .
So , the first part of the formula to broaden your self-assessment is to decide if you are ready to transform what isn ’ t working .
If your answer is yes , here is the next question . Are you willing to create a life that works ? Wanting what isn ’ t working to go away is one part , and being willing to create what does work requires another yes .
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Everyone wants a life that works . Many people wish , dream , long for , grasp at , demand , command , lust after , and suffer over their current situations .
What works is to commit your will , your willingness , and your willpower to live your life to the fullest . Will you soften your heart , open your mind , uplift your spirit , un-numb , defrost and live life as though you ’ ve never been hurt ? It isn ’ t necessary to know how to do that at this point .
If your answer is yes , continue . If your answer is no , ask a few more questions . Who are you blaming or resenting because they hurt you deeply ? Are you lost ? Are you drowning , going down for the third time , and still unwilling or unable to call out for help ?
Are you so disappointed that you won ’ t let your heart and soul fully participate again ? Did you squelch your hurt feelings , cut off your tears and cut short your grief , and now your “ sad ” is stuck and really mad ? Are you waiting for someone else to read your mind , figure you out , fix it and make it all better ? Are you lusting after perfection and won ’ t accept anything less
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because you are acting spoiled and emotionally immature ? Are you holding an unrealistic picture of what a successful life is ?
If you are willing to answer any of these questions sincerely , you might be able to get unstuck and start moving again . Remember , no one ever feels 100 % able when confronting hard situations . Lighten up on yourself . Ask for guidance , internal and external , take the first steps , and let go of having to have all the answers right now .
Be willing to ask for inner inspiration about what the right action is for you today , at this moment . Open to external help by asking for what you need , even though it is uncomfortable .
Your intuitive guidance can soothe and smooth the journey if you allow yourself to let go , let down , and do whatever is necessary to become ready , willing , and able to learn new ways to thrive .
Susan has been a local since 1986 and is the author of Beyond Intellect : Journey into the Wisdom of Your Intuitive Mind . susanvelasquez . com .
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