KU Quarterly April 2018

KU PROFESSIONAL SERVICES AND LEARNING Quarterly KU Children’s Services APRIL 2018 ENGAGING FAMILIES IN OUR SERVICES BY LARRAINE BROWN F amilies, like people, are unique. They all have their own routines, traditions, ways of communicating, behaviours, social skills and belief systems. The list of how families are different from each other is endless. For staff in early childhood centres, building relationships and engaging with families is pivotal to children feeling welcome, valued, accepted, happy and self- confident which in turn leads to good outcomes for children, families and staff. Young children are dependent in so many ways on the emotional wellbeing of their family. They are keen observers and listeners and can quickly pick up on joy, excitement, calmness, surprise, contentment, unhappiness, anger, doubt, fear and confusion. Children observe and listen wherever they are and gauge whether this is a place in which they feel safe and valued or whether their family members, usually the parents, are letting them know they are unsure and uncomfortable. It is very important that early childhood centre staff engage families in ways that encourage and nurture relationships that are built on honesty, a shared interest in their children, open communication, respect and sensitivity. The following ideas are good places to start and can be discussed at staff meetings and implemented by all the team. Acknowledge all families when they arrive and leave the centre. This may be a verbal greeting, a IN THIS ISSUE : wave or a smile. Acknowledgment signifies “I see you” and “I welcome you” or “goodbye and have a safe journey home”. Listen, because it is paramount to a relationship. Trying to listen and respond appropriately when working can be challenging. Listening requires eye contact, concentration and a response that matches the information we are hearing. You may need to make a time to meet with parents if the issue is complex or requires more time than you have when families arrive or leave a centre. There are always exceptions if a family is in a crisis or an issue has arisen that is causing distress. All teams should have a plan that enables a staff member to engage with a family in times of need. Having a prepared list of where families can access more formal support is always a good idea. Think about the information you request from families. What is essential to you may appear intrusive and at times upsetting for parents. Take time to explain what you need and why. A parent who is unwilling to fill out forms or provide information may need your assistance to do so. Be patient and offer your support. We have all been in a situation where having someone sit beside us is all we need. Keep in mind that every family has had experiences that cause expressions of joy or sadness when they talk about them. Always be prepared for a reaction that may be different than the one you expect. RETHINKING RELATIONSHIPS WITH FAMILIES AT KU CHATSWOOD COMMUNITY PRESCHOOL