Klerksdorp Weddings #3 January 2014 | Page 25

If you’re asking people to not share your wedding pictures on social media, you might feel like you need a reason, or feel compelled to make an excuse. You might think, “I’m not comfortable having my pictures shared, but it’s not like I’m Kimye, so what right do I have to ask for that?” But the reason is simply that weddings are private. You invited your uncle, not your uncle and all of his Facebook friends. You’re collecting a community of people to witness a very personal commitment. By doing that, you have the right to request and expect privacy. Figuring out how to do that well is the key.

Having photos of your wedding shared on Facebook, twitter, whatsapp, BBM or other personal networks means that your ex, or a friend you didn’t invite, or a family member you are estranged from, might see them. Are you comfortable with that?

This of course differs from your photo's being published on a blog or in a magazine, as "real wedding" photos's - but that happens when you submit them yourself!

The general rule is that guests are requested to observe the privacy of the moment during the ceremony in church, are free to take photo's while you are doing your formal wedding photo's, and then again at the reception once the party begins.

In order to get the message across, post signs at the church - this may seem like overkill, since most churches do not allow cameras during a service - but do it in any case - people get caught up in the moment and forget common decency in some situations.

Have key players make announcement of this nature prior to the service - even ask your officiant to announce it!

If you are having a ceremony outside, the same rules apply.

By all means, have someone announce it at the reception that guests are welcome to forward all of their photo's of the couple's facebook messages / emails for them to share afterwards.

You are spending as small fortune on a photographer to capture the best Forever photo's you can afford, and you don't need a reason to ask your guests to respect your wishes.

Remember to also discuss this with your wedding vendors. Stipulate which photo's they may use for promotional purposes and which not. Include it in the contract you sign with them.

If however, you and your hubby really do not mind that everyone shares your joy on their social networks,, then have fun with it!

That is a different animal than having your wedding published on a blog or in a magazine sodales. Nunc posuere mattis mi, ut .

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