ROLE OF THE PARENT OR CAREGIVER IN THE CHILD'S DEVELOPMENT:
Discussion: Ask the mothers what they think they can do to help their children develop fully or to the best of their ability.
BACKGROUND FOR THE FACILITATOR
What parents and caregivers can do:
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They can provide unconditional (without expecting anything) love, express love physically by holding, rocking and stroking,
and verbally by using soothing words to calm, comfort and encourage the child to calm himself or herself.
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Keep to rules and use removal of privileges and other forms of discipline that do not belittle, harm or reject the child.
Model behaviour that communicates confidence, positive and good results. The ideal way for children to learn positive
behaviour is by imitation. All communication with the child should therefore model caring and comforting behaviour. Set a
good example. Show your preschooler what it means to get along with others and to be respectful. Say please and thank you.
Treat people in ways that show you care what happens to them. Ask for things in a friendly way. Be kind to and patient with
other people.
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Clear rules and boundaries about behaviour towards others should be given, and any signs of cruelty, unkindness or hurting
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Praise the child for accomplishments. Any act of sharing or kindness should be praised and reinforced.
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Encourage the child to try to do things on his or her own with minimal adult help.
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When language is developing, acknowledge and label the child's feelings and encourage the child to recognise and express
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Use encouraging language for example, "I know you can do it."
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At the age of two (not younger), prepare the child for potty training by using encouragement, praise and routine.
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Let your child know that you are glad to be his or her mommy. Give him or her personal attention and encouragement. Set
of other children or adults should be stopped immediately.
feelings (for example sad, glad, sorry, happy, mad)
aside time when you and your child can do fun things together. Your happy feelings toward your child will help him or her feel
good about himself or herself.
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Listening to your children's problems will often be all that is needed for them to solve their own problems.
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Be physically affectionate. Children need hugs, kisses, an arm over the shoulder, and a pat on the back.
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Tell your child that you love him or her. Don't assume that your loving actions will speak for themselves (although those are
very important).
RESILIENCE IN CHILDREN:
Discussion: Ask the group what they think resilient children can do.
BACKGROUND FOR THE FACILITATORS
They have
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trusting relationships;
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structure and rules at home; and
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role models.
They are
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lovable and have a good temperament;
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responsible and like to explore; and
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are proud of themselves.
They can
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manage their feelings and impulses;
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seek trusting relationships;
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communicate; and
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solve problems.
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Intervention Programme for the ENHANCEMENT OF CHILDREN'S RESILIENCE
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