relationships
By Yolanda
Collins
RELATIONSHIPS
What you want or what you need?
Life is lived by the choices we make.
There are always multiple options to
the outcome in most of the situations
we face. And the end result is always
based on the choices we make. If
your are weighing your options
based on what you want, I can tell
you right now, that you are probably
about to make the wrong choice.
Start putting what you need ahead of
what you want. I am going to give an
example that I feel may help
someone that is going through this
struggle. You have been single and
dating, and you have finally narrowed
it down to 2 people.
The first option, has a great career, is
very trust worthy, and focused on
what they want in life. They are a little
more serious than you are about
some things, but you have great
times together and you know you
could be happy with this person. But,
it would require you to make some
changes that would ultimately be for
the better. The second option - has no
job, hangs out everyday doing who
knows what, and is not working
toward achieving any real goals. You
also have great times together and
you know that you could be happy
with this person as well. But, they do
not care if you ever change, even if
it’s for the better. And you are going to
require this person to do some work
on their self in order to build the future
that you want.
Here is the killing part: You love the
first option, and you know that this
person is who you need to be with to
build a future. But, you are in love with
the second option, and this is who you
want to be with right now. That is
ALWAYS the case. And what do we
ALWAYS do? We go with what we
want; the “right now” option and we
end up regretting the decision. Then
we think about what life would have
been life if we had just chose the
person that we knew we needed to be
with in the first place. One could say
“oh well, we have to live and learn.”
But the truth is, most people have
been in this exact scenario more than
once, which means you have not
learned anything. Now that was just
one example. You must know that
relationships are only one of the
areas, where making decisions
based on what we want instead of
what we need, can cause us to have
regrets. It happens in financial
decisions,($10,000 Dodge Charger
instead of a $5,000 Toyota Camry),
business decisions (Hiring
employees based on looks instead of
abilities) and even in decisions about
our diet. (“Do I really need this donut
or do I just want it?”) Just remember,
when life gives you situations in which
you are faced with multiple options,
start making your choices more
carefully. A nd when doing so,
remember that what you want is not
always what you need
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