Only Insecure Dudes Make Women Feel Bad About Being Sexual Beings
I’ ve always been the guy who has a lot of girl friends. Growing up with a single mom and three sisters, I
felt I understood and was understood more by women. Sure, you could argue that women are competitive with each other, but I never found that sense of bravado that many men have. No puffing of chests. I could talk about my problems and open up. Having emotions didn’ t ever make me lesser in their eyes. It just cemented our friendships and birthed a very genuine connection. Women seem to get that in a way men refuse to let themselves.
But when you’ re a teenager and the dude who primarily hangs with girls, this translates into meaning I was obviously closeted.“ Girls love gay guys,” I literally overheard in a locker room when two football players thought I was out of earshot. Another one of them joked,“ What a waste. They probably change in front of him and he doesn’ t even get anything out of it.”
And no, I’ m not gay, but this empty questioning of my sexuality( which was nobody’ s business) just confirmed who I was comfortable spending time with: women.
Because I’ m typically the guy in my group of friends, I’ m usually approached for“ the guy perspective.” I’ m asked to analyze text messages or why that guy ghosted Michelle after a seemingly fun first date. Most
88 of the time, I don’ t have the answers. But there’ s one thing that has become abundantly clear after years of hearing complaints from my friends about men and failed relationships.
Men who are secure with themselves won’ t slut shame you.
A man who likes himself isn’ t going to guilt you for posting a photo where you look sexy. He’ s not going to demand you change your outfit before going out to a bar. He’ s not going to look at other women and make inappropriate comments to his buddies.
A man who is comfortable with himself won’ t need to have been your one and