Only Insecure Dudes Make Women Feel Bad About Being Sexual Beings
I’ ve always been the guy who has a lot of girl friends . Growing up with a single mom and three sisters , I
felt I understood and was understood more by women . Sure , you could argue that women are competitive with each other , but I never found that sense of bravado that many men have . No puffing of chests . I could talk about my problems and open up . Having emotions didn ’ t ever make me lesser in their eyes . It just cemented our friendships and birthed a very genuine connection . Women seem to get that in a way men refuse to let themselves .
But when you ’ re a teenager and the dude who primarily hangs with girls , this translates into meaning I was obviously closeted . “ Girls love gay guys ,” I literally overheard in a locker room when two football players thought I was out of earshot . Another one of them joked , “ What a waste . They probably change in front of him and he doesn ’ t even get anything out of it .”
And no , I ’ m not gay , but this empty questioning of my sexuality ( which was nobody ’ s business ) just confirmed who I was comfortable spending time with : women .
Because I ’ m typically the guy in my group of friends , I ’ m usually approached for “ the guy perspective .” I ’ m asked to analyze text messages or why that guy ghosted Michelle after a seemingly fun first date . Most
88 of the time , I don ’ t have the answers . But there ’ s one thing that has become abundantly clear after years of hearing complaints from my friends about men and failed relationships .
Men who are secure with themselves won ’ t slut shame you .
A man who likes himself isn ’ t going to guilt you for posting a photo where you look sexy . He ’ s not going to demand you change your outfit before going out to a bar . He ’ s not going to look at other women and make inappropriate comments to his buddies .
A man who is comfortable with himself won ’ t need to have been your one and