How to Try Edging With a Partner
1 ) Get your high quality lubricant out and ready to go .
2 ) Get your partner physically aroused in the way they prefer . You can try oral stimulation , using clitoral and G-spot stimulation , nipple play , etc . Really , it ’ s about what gets those fires cooking . If your partner has a penis , start stroking them in the way they prefer . They can give you a bit of direction , but edging is about focusing on their own body so as much control as you can take , the better .
3 ) Figure out their peak . This takes regular checking in so make sure they ’ re vocal or can give sound-based cues about when they ’ re going to come . This will be important because you need to have awareness about when to reduce stimulation .
4 ) When your partner says they ’ re going to come ( or however they signal they ’ re close ), completely stop the stimulation . Allow their breathing and body to return to normal .
5 ) Start the stimulation process all over again , going through steps 2-4 . Repeat 2 times .
6 ) Get your partner going again . This time , allow them to orgasm once they reach their peak .
7 ) Check in and debrief . What did they like about this ? What did you like about it ? How did you both feel ? This will help you better attune to your partner ’ s body so that the next time you practice , you can be even more successful . Remember , this is pracitce , and will take time to master .
Edging Tip : Use Edging as a Form of Foreplay . If your partner is giving you oral sex or stroking your penis , tell them to stop and start at their discretion . Giving your partner the power to control your orgasm can be incredibly hot , both for them and for you . “ It ’ s a perfect balance between being in control , and relinquishing that control to be in the moment ,” Richmond says .
Edging Tip : Use Edging to Prep for Anal Play . If you ’ re interested in being on the receiving end of anal play , edging is a good way to prepare yourself . In order for anal play to be pleasurable , you need to be relaxed ; if you ’ re tightening your butthole , any kind of penetration could be painful , and no one wants that .
“ You can bring yourself close to orgasm several times before anal penetration , to warm up and get into a space of high arousal so that the experience of being penetrated feels different and better ,
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