How to Try Edging Alone :
1 ) Create a warm and inviting atmosphere . Successful edging experiences start with feeling safe , contained , and relaxed . Put on some music that you find relaxing / sexy , light some candles ( if that ’ s your thing ), and make sure you have privacy .
2 ) Use a reliable , high-quality lubricant . You want a lube that is water- or silicone-based , petrochemical-free , and glycerine-free . Check out our lube guide for recommendations .
3 ) Start the physical arousal process . Begin touching your penis / clitoris with well-lubed fingers ( or hands ). Stroke as you normally would .
4 ) When you feel like you ’ re about to reach the point of no return , stop all stimulation . Take your hands away or slow down your movements . Take 5 deep breaths , inhaling and exhaling slowly . Bring awareness to your body .
5 ) In your awareness , consider what you were thinking / feeling while getting yourself excited . Were you feeling tension in your muscles ? Having a fantasy ? Thinking about someone ? This self-check helps to build a stronger mind-body connection between you and your penis / clitoris .
6 ) Start the process over by beginning to masturbate as you normally would . Stop again at the point of no return , take 5 deep breaths , and bring back your awareness outlined in step 5 .
7 ) Repeat steps 1 – 3 one more time . Do this until you reach your peak . 8 ) Let go and enjoy your climax .
Edging Tip : Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor .
Pulling yourself back from the edge isn ’ t always easy , but strengthening your pubococcygeal ( PC ) muscle can help . Located at the floor of your pelvis , the muscle is involved in peeing as well as the spasms you experience during an orgasm . The key to strengthening your PC muscles ? Kegel exercises . Head here for a guide on how to practice kegels .
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