10 . Psychological Play
Some of the most intense sexual play takes place in the mind . Renye refers to psychological power play — a type of BDSM — as “ mind control .” Psychologi- cal play involves implementing a sexual power exchange : Humiliation play , for example , might involve a submissive partner getting off on being called names . Consensual threats are an example of psychological play ; one example is a dom- me warning a male submissive with a foot fetish that he ’ ll have to lick her feet if he doesn ’ t fall in line and do exactly as she says .
11 . Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Voyeurism — or obtaining sexual pleasure from watching others who are naked or having sex — is more common than you ’ d think . Of course , as with every oth- er fetish , engage in voyeurism consensually , for example at a sex party where a couple has given you permission to watch ; watching someone without their per- mission is never acceptable . The flip side of voyeurism is exhibitionism , which means achieving sexual pleasure by allowing others to watch you . It ’ s the sexual enjoyment of showing off . If you like to get down at a sex party , in public spaces , or even at home with the curtains open , you may be an exhibitionist .
12 . Cuckolding
You may have heard the term “ cuck ” thrown around as an alt-right slur . It ’ s unfortunate since cuckolding is a common kink that anyone can enjoy . Tradition- ally , speaking in gendered terms , cuckolding is when a husband watches as his wife ( the hotwife ) has sex with someone else ( the bull ). The husband , aka the cuck , may get to watch , but he is emasculated and not allowed to participate . It ’ s often a form of erotic humiliation . The female version of a cuck is known as a cuckquean . However , all genders can enjoy being the cuck , the hotwife , and the bull .
13 . Erotic Humiliation
Erotic humiliation lets you reclaim embarrassment by getting off on it . “ Humil- iation play is a consensual power exchange that is a very typical fetish . It can help people heal parts of the self that may have been bullied as a child . There ’ s a sense of mastery over something that may have previously been non-consensu- al ,” says Renye .
14 . Spectrophilia
Spectrophilia refers to having a thing for ghosts because sometimes humans aren ’ t worth it . It usually involves the fantasy of a spirit , but sometimes people believe they actually have sex with one at night or while they sleep . Traditionally , a succubus refers to a female sex ghost , and an incubus is a male ghost that has sex with humans as they sleep .
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