That Are Actually Common
1 . Impact Play
Impact play means spanking , flogging , paddling , and other forms of consensual striking . Spanking is often an easy and safe BDSM entry point that leads to ex- ploring more , such as purchasing a crop to use with a partner . Impact play can range from a light slap on the bum to a crack of the whip .
As with any kink or fetish , it ’ s important to negotiate boundaries beforehand . “ Safety and comfort are the most important aspects of kink ,” says Renye . Do your homework before practicing impact play . Discuss the level of intensity you enjoy ( or your partner enjoys ), choose a safe word to shut down the action on a dime if need be , and learn what parts of the body are safe to impact . Stick with the meatier areas , like the ass and thighs , and avoid less protected areas where organs live , like the lower back .
2 . Role-Playing
You don ’ t have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up . Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner ( s ), either once or as part of an ongoing fantasy . While it can be a fetish or kink within itself , it ’ s also a healthy way to act out other fantasies . For instance , if you have a medical fan- tasy and are aroused by doctors , you probably don ’ t actually want your doctor to get sexy with you , because that would be creepy and abusive . The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as a doctor and indulge your fantasy consensually in your own home .
3 . Foot Fetish
A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage , kissing , and smelling . As professional dominatrix Goddess Aviva previously told Allure , it ’ s an extremely common fetish . If your partner shares that they have a foot fetish , it may be initially jarring , but it ’ s an opportunity for you to discuss a potentially exciting new part of your sex life together . ( And , if you ’ re into it , just think of all the foot massages headed your way !)
4 . Anal Sex
You don ’ t need to have an anal fetish to engage in anal sex , but plenty of peo- ple do specifically get off on butt stuff . Anal play can range from adding a finger in the ass during penetrative vaginal sex to using butt plugs to having anal sex with a penis or a dildo .
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