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those who stuck with routine, mundane activities. you excited," she says. Try one-on-one activities like tennis, racquetball, skiing, hiking, or fishing. "It's amazing what getting out of your normal routine and pushing your comfort boundaries will do for your love life," says Sheri Meyers, PsyD. She's the author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship. Touch. "So many couples hold back kissing, touching, or holding each other until they have time or the desire to have sex," says Meyers. But that's a mistake. Researchers have found that affectionate touch boosts the body's feel-good hormones. The trick is to pick something fun and exciting, not just pleasant. Ride a roller coaster. Visit a far-flung destination. Hug your partner. Hold hands. Be playful with touch. "Whisper sweet and adoring things into your partner's ear. Brush against him in a sexually seductive way," says Meyers. "Affection is a way to make love all day outside of the bedroom." Another option is to get competitive, suggests Rachel DeAlto, a communication and relationship expert in Point Pleasant, N.J. "When you're physically competing and experiencing new things together, those dopamine levels soar, which replicates those early butterflies and gets Having fun during sex, instead of doing it for obligation's sake, can stoke the fires of your relationship. 66