whether they really get along."
Despite these commonly held beliefs, the idea that cohabitation
will somehow improve the quality of a subsequent marriage is
wrong. Research over the last thirty years shows that
cohabitation does not lead to increased satisfaction or stability in
marriage. Compared to marriage, cohabitation creates
disadvantages for individuals, couples, and children.
Before describing these disadvantages, let's first examine why
couples choose to cohabit - either as a prelude to marriage or as
an expected "permanent" lifestyle.
Why
Would Anyone Consider Cohabiting?
Although some couples say they cohabit for convenience (e.g.,
only one apartment to clean) or to lower their cost of living (one
apartment is cheaper than two), most adults say they cohabit for
one or more of the following reasons: (1) for emotional and
sexual intimacy without the obligations of marriage; (2) to test
their compatibility; (3) to prepare for marriage by practicing
living with someone "24/7"; and (4) to better know each other's
habits, character, and fidelity. Some people perceive
cohabitation as a way to have a more intimate relationship
without the risks of divorce or being trapped in an unhappy
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