JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE November issue 2015 | Page 69

He has basic needs with the
biggest one being this: “Love me
for me, and don’t try to change
me.”When you keep this in mind,
you’ve got relationship
satisfaction and understanding
men locked up!

And then presto! He’ll feel
comfortable and freakin’ great
with the company he surrounds
himself with, which is YOU! By
dinnertime, he’ll have opened up
and spilled more details about his
day.

• Take him for face value. It’s
easy to worry or obsess over
what your guy could be thinking,
is probably thinking or hopefully
thinking about you, your body, or
your future together. But here’s
the thing—when you get intense
and contemplative about your
relationship, he can most likely
feel it.
While he’s not a mind reader, he
can feel the intensity, the
pressure and the expectations
you’re putting on him. So, if he
you ask him how his day was,
and he tells you it “wasn’t bad,
not too stressful,” leave it alone.

• Stop looking for the ‘hidden
meaning’ in everything he
says. If you understand men, that
means that you don’t have an
obsessive need to worry about
what he’s thinking but not saying
to you.
It also means that you don’t feel
like you have to look, feel and
act perfect all the time, because
you’re secure enough with
yourself to show him who you
really are—imperfections and all.
So drop wondering what the
hidden meaning really is in
him—guys are simple. We’re the
one who complicate things!

Take him and what he says for
face value. Don’t keep probing
him for answers—because once
he has some downtime to relax,
and isn’t interrogated or feel
under the radar, he’ll know that
you’re loving him for who he is.

• Enjoy bonding through
activity, not
‘promises’. Whether you’re
single and out at your favorite
hot spot hoping to meet an
amazing, funny guy, or you’re in
a three year relationship, it’s easy

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