your sexual experience,
something Westheimer
feels strongly women
must do.
2. Stop Worrying About
What You Look Like
Thinking about how you
look during sex stops you
from enjoying yourself
and ruins your chances of
achieving an orgasm.
“Don’t think about the fat
on your belly or the
makeup on your face,”
advises Westheimer.
“Concentrate on the
pleasure of the act. You
must give yourself
permission to have an
orgasm.”
“Men want women to
abandon themselves in sex
play, and that’s not likely
if she is anxious about her
physical concerns,”
Parrott says.
Helen Fisher, PhD, a
cultural anthropologist at
Joy feelings magazine
Rutgers University and
author of a new book
called Why Him, Why
Her, says men don’t notice
half the things women
obsess about anyway.
“It’s amazing what men
don’t notice. Men are
much more attracted to
women who show signs of
health. Rather than worry
about the shape of your
waist and hips, worry
about your energy level
and enthusiasm and
interest in him,” Fisher
advises.
3. Don’t Assume That
All Men Want Is Casual
Sex
Westheimer believes
women should all let go of
old-fashioned notions,
such as women are not
sexual or that sex is just
sex to men. “For some
men, sex is a very