have afterward will be life
affirming." Yes, she
means daredevil activities
like skydiving or bungee
jumping, but a rollercoaster ride together will
also do the trick. You'll
still get to yell at the top
of your lungs, just not at
your boo. Not an
adrenaline junkie? Simply
going for a run together
works too. You'll get all
red in the face but only in
the best way.
2. Ditch Each Other
A postfight romp is a
reunion of sorts — you're
coming together after
being emotionally distant,
right? So instead of
arguing, try planning
physical time apart. Hollie
S., 25, has mastered this
trick. "I look forward to
solo trips because I get to
Joy feelings magazine
do something I really
enjoy, plus my husband
and I really get to miss
each other, which leads to
hotter sex when we get
our hands on each other
again," she says. Aaron
Ben-Ze'ev, PhD, author
of In the Name of Love,
agrees. "In a flourishing
relationship, the
importance of personal
space cannot be
exaggerated." So plan a
weekend getaway with
friends, pronto.
3. Inspire Some
Harmless Competition
You know how hot you
feel when you're dressed
up and turning a few
strangers' heads in a bar?
Ari B., 34, suggests
tapping into that emotion
and "going out and getting
attention from someone