JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE may-june 2015 | Page 25

The woman who is insecure with her own emotions will see a man who withdraws as a threat and denigrate him and go on the attack. This is the antithesis of supportive behavior. She may not realize that he is a man who is brave beyond measure to face his own soul and bare his spirit with vulnerable trust. When a man doesn’t respond as she needs and demands at the emotional level, lashing out will only cause harm. Gentle understanding and compassionate acceptance brings healing and deepens the relationship. One of the best qualities women have is the ability to nurture. Nurturing is not aggressive. And with a Joy feelings magazine man, directing aggression at him will generate an aggressive response. He will either fight or run. The flight or fight response is deeply ingrained into every human being. In essence, attacking a man who is opening his heart will trigger a survival level instinct. Once that survival level power fully awakens in relationship, the dynamics in the relationship changes and may never come back to equilibrium. Nurturing is not forceful, instead it is accepting and allows for a natural growth curve. Be patient. Just as a tree takes time to come into its fullness and blossom, a man who is learning to embrace his deeper truths will need