But I’m telling you, after
8 years of coaching, I’ve
become convinced that
people don’t change.
Which is why I’m not
asking you to change
yourself; only to change
your choice of men.
Recently I was asked
what percentage of my
clients found love by
changing their
personalities vs. what
percentage of my clients
found love from changing
their choice of men.
All my success stories
changed their choice of
men. If you’re out
working 60 hours a week,
you don’t need a guy who
does the same. You might
need a guy who is your
complement, a supporter,
a nurturer, your biggest
fan who is your strength
when the going gets
Joy feelings magazine
tough. He makes you
laugh. He listens to you.
He gets you.
You might need your own
complement, just like the
alpha males I’ve
described above.
You can protest that you
don’t want your
complement; you still
want your clone.
Fair enough. How’s that
working for you?
So, to me, your takeaway
in figuring out how to
attract and keep the right
guy, your biggest problem
is not who you are inside.
It’s your picker.
The men you’re
choosing are not
necessarily the right
guy.