Joy feelings magazine July Issue 2019 | Page 32

a connection. Nothing is creepier, however, than stalking a potential mate on social media. It’s far more fun to allow a natural mysteriousness that comes with slowly getting to know someone rather than overdosing on their Facebook status updates from the last five years. 8. Hold the sex. While this may not seem all that modern, it can be when taken in context of current trends. These days more relationships start from what were once casual affairs— meaning that the sex came before anything else. While there is nothing wrong with this per se, it does complicate things when we introduce the hormone surge from physical intimacy that can sometimes cloud our vision. This clouded vision can make us more inclined to make choices based on innate chemical responses rather than true potential. 9. Date for the fun of it, not the destination. While marriage and children is just as much a modern concept as a traditional one, it’s important not to approach every single date as though you are interviewing a potential life partner. A sense of spaciousness where the journey is in this moment is just as much appreciated as a potential destination, which makes for a much more fun, relaxed, and enjoyable dating experience.